Good afternoon, dear readers! Today I won't tell you anything useful. And that's a lie. We encounter lies at work, at home, at school, with friends. It is unpleasant and disgusting to be deceived. I bring to your attention detailed instructions on how to recognize a lie: 10 mistakes of a liar.

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How many times in your life have you encountered a person who seemed strange to you, you felt that he was not telling something, that he was disingenuous. Have you noticed that you subconsciously don’t trust his facial expressions, gestures, and speech?

But how to detect deception and not fall for a liar?

If you want to become an expert in this field, then be sure to read Paul Ekman "Psychology of Lies" and Pamela Meyer "How to recognize a lie".

Now we will look at the most common signs by which you can expose a liar to clean water. Remember that a lot depends on the context; a certain gesture will not always mean a lie. Be careful and vigilant.

Mistake #1 “Left Side”

Body language often speaks much louder than a person's speech. Right-handed people tend to have good control over the right side of their body. Track the direction of your right arm and leg. You can easily subjugate an unbridled hand.

Therefore, lie detection experts advise looking closely at the left side of a person. His left hand will dangle randomly, actively gesticulate, touch his face, and so on.

The left side of our body shows our real emotions, experiences and feelings. With quality observation, you can clearly see the signs of lying.

Mistake #2 “Hands to face”

Pay close attention to the gestures of your interlocutor. Signs of lying are covering your mouth, rubbing your nose, holding or scratching your neck, covering your ear, talking through your teeth. All this, if repeated many times, will practically scream that the person is deceiving.

It is important here not to confuse such a gesture with simply scratching a bite, for example. Or this behavior may be characteristic of your interlocutor.

I have a friend who constantly scratches his nose. It doesn't matter whether he's telling the truth or lying. Women resort to touching their neck or hair to show their interest in a man. So be extremely careful with such signals.

Mistake #3 “Speech”

If you want to make sure that a person is lying, then carefully watch his speech. In a conversation with a liar, you will notice a lot of understatement, a crumpled pace of speech, sometimes he speaks quickly, sometimes slowly. Most often, a liar's speech begins slowly, but then, out of fear of being discovered, he speeds up and may even end his story abruptly.

Liars often use a lot of pauses in their story. This gives them time to think and evaluate your reaction. You will also notice fluctuations in your speech. To make things easier for themselves, liars repeat your own words. For example, when you ask a question, he will quickly repeat the last words. "Where were you last week?" - “Last week I was...”

Mistake #4 “Eyes”

It’s not for nothing that they say that the eyes are the mirror of the soul. In the case of meeting a liar, the eyes will be one of the main factors by which you can bring him to clean water. Deceivers try not to look directly at their interlocutor; they always look away.

You can even ask him to tell you the story while looking him in the eye. The liar will be confused, embarrassed and will still try to look away.

Mistake #5 “Emotions”


Facial expressions, as a component of body language, say a lot about what a person would like to keep silent about. The most common example is when a person tells you that he is glad to see you, but smiles only a moment later.

True emotions are expressed in parallel with speech. But the fictitious emotion is displayed on the face with a delay.

Mistake #6: “Being short”

When a liar comes up with his speech, he tries to make it as short and laconic as possible. You rarely hear a detailed and detailed story from the mouth of a professional liar.

Brevity allows you to quickly post your version and evaluate your opponent’s reaction. Did he believe it? But then the seventh mistake happens.

Mistake #7 “Unnecessary parts”

When a person briefly outlines the essence of his false story to you, but begins to doubt your gullibility, he immediately embellishes the story with detailed, unnecessary, and sometimes pretentious details. In this way, he tries to make his story more believable.

Notice at what points the person begins to add details and details. Are they needed in the story, are they necessary and important in your conversation.

Mistake #8 “Protection”

Another liar's move is to defend himself against your doubts. As soon as you express your distrust, you will immediately hear “Do you think I look like a liar? Am I lying to you? You do not believe me?" and so on.

Liars may resort to sarcasm and jokes to cover up their lies. Do not confuse this with the normal behavior of a person.

There are those comrades who are always trying to impress their interlocutor with their sense of humor.
Additionally, sarcasm and rudeness between husband and wife may indicate that they have serious respect issues.

Mistake #9 “Attention”

The deceiver will watch your reaction very carefully. He will attribute the slightest change in your facial expressions to distrust or his complete victory. As soon as you frown slightly, he immediately changes tactics, because he considers this a sign of distrust.

A person who tells the truth will be more interested in his story than in your reaction to it. And the liar will try to understand whether you swallowed his bait or not.

Mistake #10: Confusion

If you ask your interlocutor to tell a story backwards, the person who is telling the truth will easily do this trick. But a liar will begin to get confused, remember what he told you, and in the end may not give any answer at all.

In addition, in the liar’s speeches there may be inconsistencies in dates, times, and places. If you follow the story carefully, you can find a couple of similar moments,

Summarize

Don't jump to conclusions. If you notice one or two of the signs described above, this does not always mean that the person is lying to you. A more correct approach would be to learn to see the aggregate of these signs.

When you know for sure that a person is lying to you, do not say so right away. Practice your observation skills. Study his facial expressions and gestures. Ask questions that don't have an expected answer.

A friend of mine came up with a spectacular maneuver. During his speech, he deliberately sneezed loudly when he wanted to convince his interlocutor that he was right. And with the words “I sneezed, it means I’m telling the truth,” he smiled solemnly.

Best wishes to you!