Do you want your relationship to be happy, or, as they say now, harmonious?

In literature and in trainings we are told that for harmonious relationships we need to be open and honest. Each of us will always have reasons not to do this - not to be open and honest.

But, probably, many are asking the question - What does it mean to “be honest in a relationship”? Where to start and how to start “being honest”?

Honesty includes skill to tell the truth.

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Famous American writer Neil Donald Walsh gives the following classification of the ability to tell the truth:

When I talk about openness in relationships, I often think about the ability to tell the truth, which is the essence of openness. I realized that there are five levels of ability to tell the truth.

1. The first level is when you tell the truth to yourself about yourself.

This was a huge problem for me because I had been lying to myself for many, many years. It's hard to imagine a person lying to himself, but it happens so easily, and I did it for a long time.

ADVICE: For example, when you experience so-called negative emotions - anger, resentment, anger, rejection, etc. - admit it to yourself: "Yes, I experience it" .

What to do with these emotions - decide for yourself based on your experience and skills.

But first admit to yourself that you NOW have these emotions.

And you will immediately feel better.

2. The second level is when you tell the truth to yourself about another person.

I also used to lie to myself about other people for many, many years. For example, for many years I told myself that I loved the most romantic love of the person I was with.

When I started to think that this was not true, when I allowed myself to imagine things like: “Look, maybe you don’t love her anymore,” my inner voice said: “Don’t be stupid, of course you love her.”

Because I should have thought so. This is how it was supposed to be for me.

So I lied to myself for a long time, until one day I told myself the truth.

I didn't even say it out loud, I just said it to myself, which was overcoming a huge barrier for me.


Tell yourself the truth

3. The third level is when I tell the truth about myself to another person.

In other words, approximately what I am doing now.

ADVICE: We are afraid or avoid telling the truth about ourselves. We worry that they will think badly of us, or judge us, or that everyone will turn their back on us - and we will be left alone.

But it’s not for nothing that this level of truth is Third. It was after passing the First and Second.

For example, when we are criticized or made comments, we rush to justify ourselves. Even if we were wrong. At this moment it is useful to stop and agree: “Yes, I am like that (like that)” , or "Yes it is" , or “Yes, I did it (did it)” .

As a result, your conversation will become more fruitful and useful for its participants. You will save time and energy that would otherwise be spent on clarification and arguing.

4. The fourth level is when I tell the truth about another person.

To him - my truth, of course, and not the true truth. True truth does not exist objectively, but I share my truth with another person about himself.

ADVICE: Speak in a calm tone, without complaints or accusations.

Best regards to Soul another man.

5. The fifth level is when you tell the truth to everyone about everything.

And if you can take these five steps, you are five steps closer to heaven, because heaven... there is no more need to lie.


No more need to lie

Yes, it is not easy to tell the truth about yourself. But when this level is passed, the Soul becomes soooo easy! And you can move on to the next one.

Each level requires awareness, i.e. understanding - why am I doing this?
Is it worth the hassle? Decide for yourself – why and whether it’s worth it...
And I sincerely wish you good luck!!

P.S. I will be glad to see your response V