August 16, 2015

There is hardly a person in the world who has not cheated. Think of yourself or your friends who, after being late for school, came up with a thousand reasons and excuses. Or your parents, whom you told that you were hanging out with friends, but in fact it was a guy. Yes, they all lied. But how do you deal with the fact that a loved one deceived you? This is the question we will answer.

In fact, it all depends on the situation. There are situations when a guy is hard to judge for lying. Let's say he went to the store to choose a gift for you, and you call. As a result, in order for the surprise to remain a surprise, he has to lie. A pregnant wife often asks her husband if she is beautiful. And a loving husband, despite all the sizes that spoil the figure of his beloved, says that there are no changes and she is as beautiful as before. But it's all a lie. However, for some reason we perceive it well. What is the secret? First, let's figure out what the word "lie" means?

A lie is a statement that does not correspond to the truth and is expressed in this form deliberately.

That is, if a person deceives and does not realize his guilt, then it turns out that he is not lying.

Yes, I agree that men lie more than women. And lying is very bad. But due to his masculine nature, a guy can resort to this. For example, in Buddhism there are 3 holy lies that can be used according to their religion:

1. To save the family

2. To save friendship

3. To save the world

And it's hard to disagree. We even have such a concept - a lie for good. Still, it's best not to lie. Because it is a fog, and the more a person lies, the more he sinks into it. And over time, he himself no longer knows where the truth is and where it is not.

And so now, understanding what a lie is and that everything depends on the situation, let's move on to solving our problem. The reason that a man lies is always there - the fear of answering for his act and being punished. Indeed, a guy is often afraid to participate in the next scandal, so he decides to cheat. Most likely, some negative qualities that you do not like in him, he cannot overcome himself and tries to hush up about them. This leads to insincerity and closeness of a person. Therefore, if you cannot put up with lies, then you need to fight them.

Consider instructions for wise girls on what to do if a guy cheated:

1. Analyze what a lie is and how it can be caused. If, for example, a guy smokes, but told you that he does not smoke. Then most likely he cannot overcome addictions and tries not to upset you. So, for example, you are waiting for a guy at home, and he said that he was late from work. In fact, he was dating a friend. That lie is caused by the fact that the guy is afraid to admit it to you, as you will scold him. And here the reason is excessive freedom of action on his part or on your part of depriving him of time to communicate with a friend.

2. Make decisions for yourself. You must understand what outcome would be acceptable for you. But do not forget that in a relationship the main thing is the ability to find compromises. That is, the decision should suit both. For example, he made time for a friend, but you did not. Then you should invite your beloved to meet all three and spend interesting time together. Or reconsider your relationship and give your chosen one more free time. By doing so, you will also get free time that you can spend on your hobbies.

3. Frank conversation. Since you have made decisions for yourself, you can start the conversation itself. In this conversation, confidently and decisively declare to your loved one that you have recorded a lie on his part. Explain exactly what the lie itself is. Try to confirm your words with facts during the conversation so that the guy does not have the opportunity to manipulate and evade the answer. And so calmly and confidently you proved the existence of a lie on his part.

4. Lying ruins relationships. Now explain to your chosen one that lying does not lead to anything good. After a little deception comes a big deception. And over time, you will generally cease to understand each other and be sincere. And since you together do not want to allow this, then offer him to first apologize for his act, if he has not done so yet. And then let him offer his solution to the problem.

5. Compromise and worthy solution. Most likely, the guy will begin to promise that this will not happen again. Then offer him your solution that will satisfy both. By doing so, in his eyes, you will raise your self-esteem, and in the future he is unlikely to want to lie. After all, it is better to settle things amicably with you. In rare cases, he will offer a solution that does not satisfy you. Then you need to remind him of his lies and say that he has no right to demand so much. Then offer your compromise.

This instruction will help you raise your authority in the eyes of a man. Also, you are beautiful and confident and will do everything possible to prevent it in the future. The main thing is to try never to scandal about it. Since welding will not lead to a solution to your problem, but most likely, on the contrary, it will alienate you from each other.