Women and girls often complain that a guy constantly lies. More often than not, this is not even a lie, but an exaggeration on the part of the man, but not every girl is ready to forgive a guy or her beloved man even this. Let's look at why a man lies to a woman and how to deal with it.

Why is this happening

If a man is lying, you should find out the reasons for such male tactics, then his motives will become clear and it will be possible to plan further actions. The reason may be quite deep.

It may be that when a man lies, he is simply showing a defensive reaction learned from childhood. It is possible that as a child he was required to give a detailed account of every step, was not left alone for a minute, and was severely punished for any little things.

Later he realized that when he lies about little things, he is questioned less, and that any events can be embellished and made the way the questioner wants them to be. Such behavior for a guy can become a permanent pattern of behavior when he lies subconsciously. American psychologists believe that absolutely all people always lie - to others or to themselves.

How to spot a lie

When a guy lies, his subconscious clearly knows about it, and it can be quite difficult to hide it. Psychology identifies the following gestures that will help you recognize when a man is deceiving a woman:

  • A posture in which the hands are in the pockets may suggest that the man is lying.
  • Another type of gesture is touching your face, neck, shoulders, trying to cover your mouth with your palm.
  • Vague emotions, such as grinning, tenseness and shrugging, twitching.
  • Concern about appearance during a conversation, adjusting clothes.
  • The man hides details, answers uncertainly, and repeats the same things.

But you should not immediately conclude that the man is lying, since it is possible to understand that this is really so only by taking into account the individual characteristics of the person. Some men always behave this way around women – insecure and confused.

In addition, having discovered that something is wrong, you should not immediately call the young man hysterically and bring down a barrage of accusations and evidence on him. Most likely, the young man will not even listen to the end of the hysteria about “how bad he is, but they trusted him.”

How to react correctly

Having found out why he might do this, let's consider how to behave with a guy or man who is used to constantly lying. First of all, don’t look to your friends for advice. Everyone lies at least once in their life, but when they hear about the sins of others, they act as strict judges. Their advice is unlikely to change anything, but the dirty laundry will be washed out of the house, as the famous saying goes, and your loved one may be known as a person who often lies.

If a man constantly strives to deceive, you should not become for him something like a mother, controlling every step. In this case, men are guided by only one instinct: mother will forgive everything.

This approach leads to the fact that guys lie in the same way as they lied, and constant scandals will only build an insurmountable wall between you. To do everything right, solve the problem step by step.

Convince the man that you yourself are not lying, and you want reciprocity in this regard. If a guy constantly lies, you need to make it clear to him that these omissions make your relationship worse, and that the bitter truth will always be better than the sweetest lie. Someday the lie will still be revealed. Remember what to do if a guy is used to lying, something won’t work out at lightning speed.

Is it worth exposing lies?

In most cases, the psychology of such lies is harmless and you should not react to it as if it were the end of the world. If, while figuring out whether he is lying, you definitely found affirmative arguments, try to judge them correctly.

For example, you found an amount of money that you didn’t know about. It is possible that he just wanted to give a gift. The psychological side of the issue is such that with constant reproaches you will only provoke him to become even more closed, and he understands this too.

In addition, by catching him in a lie, you will hurt his male pride. And the male psyche endures this very hard. The best option for girls would be to turn this lie into a joke after some time. This way she will be convinced that she was right, and men’s feelings will not be harmed.

Little lies

Women's experiences and suspicions can sometimes be caused by the most harmless exaggeration. Girls believe that a person who lies about small things will lie on a larger scale.

In fact, the opposite happens. A person you can rely on in any, even the most difficult life situation, is absolutely honest and sincere, but in small things he likes to exaggerate somewhat. From a psychological point of view, most men tend to exaggerate their achievements and successes, downplaying failures, and no advice can help here.

Perhaps he is trying to be more successful in the eyes of his other half, exaggerating his achievements. Accept this as a manifestation of his love and desire to be better, more successful, smarter, more beautiful for you. In this case, you cannot compare him with your colleagues or friends, since his pride will simply be trampled and not a single psychologist’s advice will help resolve the issue.

If all else fails

It also happens that not a single request or exhortation has any effect on a person. He admits that this is impossible, understands all the hints about his dishonesty, but systematically continues to do the same thing.

If lying becomes a serious obstacle to your relationship, you will have to start a dialogue. This should be a dialogue about how the relationship is in limbo and there is no reason to lie. But under no circumstances should one proceed to reproaches and list all cases of deception.

Explain that you have a normal attitude towards meeting with friends, do not pretend to fully transfer your salary to the general budget and are ready to accept him as he is, so that he does not come up with incredible stories about failures at work or downplay his earnings.

When the chosen one realizes that there really is no reason to lie, his behavior may change. Also, as a lesson, you can try to behave similarly. Lie about something about which he knows the truth, doing it openly and confidently. Then he will be in your place and will be able to understand the emotions experienced.

How to choose the right approach

It should not be ruled out that lying is a consequence of banal indifference. Excluding this option is already a lie to yourself. If there are suspicions that a young man does not harbor the same feelings, it is worth talking about it - calmly and without hysterics. Burdening each other with an unwanted alliance is highly undesirable.

If the fantasies, exaggerations and fables of the chosen one are innocent in nature, you should not even worry about this. Exaggerating the size of a fry once caught while fishing or giving one’s former qualities a heroic connotation is completely normal behavior.

But a serious and major lie, which can set you up and seriously mislead you, is a real reason for a serious conversation and posing the issue head-on, since no behavior should become a wedge between loving people.