Almost every woman has faced the problem of communication between her man and his ex-wife. You feel discomfort, fear and jealousy when He texts or meets with her again. The brain automatically draws unpleasant pictures that are impossible to get rid of. There is a fear of losing your current love, because you never know what their next meeting promises.

You ask yourself the question: “My husband communicates with his ex-wives, what should I do?”

  • Firstly, you should initially understand the reason why they did not interrupt communication after breaking up.
  • And secondly, calm down. You shouldn’t torment yourself every day and constantly worry about the current situation; you should first understand the reasons for this behavior.

My ex-wife lives in this house. Can you imagine? We ride in the same elevator. After meeting her, I drink three glasses to calm down.
Donnie Brasco

Reasons why a husband communicates with his ex-wife

  1. The connecting link is children in marriage. You can completely understand your man’s desire to see his own children. However, it is impossible to avoid communicating with your ex-wife in this situation. In this case, ex-spouses should create a friendly atmosphere of communication rather than a hostile one. Their children already reacted hard and survived their parents’ divorce, and the situation should not be aggravated. In the end, it is they who will suffer from this.
  2. Loneliness of the ex-wife. In some cases, your husband's ex-wife is left completely alone after the separation. She has no relatives, no friends or acquaintances to whom she could turn for help or advice. This often occurs when women were housewives and their social circle did not include anyone other than your husband. He was always her protection, the closest person. Therefore, after breaking up, your man most likely feels responsible for this woman, who is now completely alone. In this case, you can only be glad that your man has compassion and responsiveness. Now his goal is to make amends to his ex-wife.
  3. Business relationship. Joint business in marriage is not uncommon. Business relationships connect your man with his ex-woman; it is impossible to refuse this communication, since work and a conscientious child that feeds you and your entire life are at stake. Even with all the desire of your spouse, he will not be able to interrupt communication with his ex, even if it is a burden to him.
  4. Friends. Some relationships end by mutual consent. There are no specific circumstances for a quarrel, it’s just that in marriage, the spouses’ feelings for each other cool down and they decide to separate, while remaining on friendly terms. You should not be jealous of your spouse for a woman for whom he no longer feels anything. Unreasonable jealousy, which can cause discord in your relationship with him.

The husband maintains communication with his ex-wife through social networks/calls

Now it depends on you how you will react to such a situation.

There are several behavior options for a wife:

  1. Let it be as it is. Or simply not pay any attention to this communication. If you are sure that your man has no feelings for her, and he loves you completely and will never cheat on you, then you should not waste your nerves on such trifles. The past is left behind, and now you should build your future together. Some exes want to discord and destroy your marriage in this way, following their undeniable logic “I’m alone, so let him be alone.” And why would you agree to such provocations? With your jealousy and quarrels you will only bring pleasure to his ex.
  2. Serious conversation with your man. Control yourself during such a conversation. Your job is to calmly discuss the problem, and not bring it to a huge scandal. Over the course of your marriage, you've already gotten to know your loved one, so behavior during conversations can tell you a lot, such as whether you should be wary or concerned about their interactions or meetings. If a man does not understand the essence of such a conversation, then try asking how he would feel in your place.
  3. Conversation with ex-wife. Your husband’s ex-wife intends to do everything in her power to bring him back to her, but your man doesn’t want this? Then take matters into your own hands. Set up a meeting with his ex-wife and in a calm atmosphere explain to her that this idea is doomed, and getting involved in other people's relationships is a waste of time and effort.
  4. Remaining feelings. Does your man still have feelings for his ex? Then you should reconsider your attitude towards the whole situation as a whole. Talk to him seriously, find out how he feels about you and her.

You won’t be able to hold him forever, if the person wants, he will still leave, no matter how hard you try. In this case, it is better to let him go, because you will simply waste your time and nerves.

Meetings between husband and ex-wife

First, calm down. You should not go to extremes and become irritable and suspicious. There must be a justifiable reason for any meeting. In the end, he lives and married you, which means he has feelings for you, and not for her.

Secondly, discuss the whole situation with him. Share your feelings with a man; there is no need to keep all your emotions to yourself. The main thing is to convey to him that their meetings are extremely unpleasant for you.

Thirdly, find out the real reason for their meetings. In some cases, you can follow your man to make sure that their communication ends solely with conversation.

Fourth, benefit from it and look at the situation from a different angle. Was there a reason why they broke up? Then you should find out and try to avoid the critical moment.

If your ex-wife intends to take your man away, what should you do?

  • Tactic 1 - eliminating the problem. Try to completely cut off your husband's connection with his ex-wife. Initially, try to directly say that this communication is unpleasant for you and he should make a specific choice: she or you. If he does not give a specific answer, take a break in your communication. During this time, decide for yourself: do you want to be with a person who did not choose you in this situation. Here you should already think about whether your husband has reciprocal sympathy for her, since he values ​​her so much.
  • Tactic 2 - self-knowledge. People pay attention to other men/women for a reason. This means that something does not suit them in their current relationship with their spouses. Find out the reason, perhaps you often quarrel with each other, or have ceased to be interesting to him. Fight for your happiness, and don’t give up. Often the reason lies in ourselves, so improve yourself and try to improve your relationships.
  • Tactic 3 - acceptance. Your man can't figure out who he should be with? Then help him make a decision. If such a choice is made, calmly let the person go. Why do you need a man who is not sure of his feelings for you? Strong feelings do not force a person to make such a choice.

Conclusion

The main advice to a woman on what to do if her husband communicates with his ex-wife - Calm down! You should not suffer from insomnia at night and tear your hair out.

Is everything great in your relationship? Then there is no reason to worry.

If your relationship has collapsed, this is not a reason to drive yourself into trouble. Keep your nose up, everything that is not done is always for the better, dear ladies!