In any relationship between a girl and a young man, a feeling of jealousy periodically arises. Jealousy quickly destroys some relationships, while others, on the contrary, only strengthen and harden. Girls can be very interested in whether they should make their beloved man jealous and how often this should be done, whether it is possible to be jealous yourself and whether this feeling will be at least somehow useful. Feelings of jealousy are doubts about the fidelity and love of your other half, associated with the fear of losing a loved one. Therefore, such a feeling can be useful, but not always.

What is jealousy and what are the benefits of it in building relationships?

Jealousy is a feeling of peculiar ownership towards a loved one, a desire that no one else claims a place next to him. To a reasonable extent, jealousy should be present in any relationship, since it also brings its own benefits. For example, jealousy allows us to feel that we are paying little attention to our other half, since she begins to accept this attention from other people and need it. This is a kind of defense mechanism - with the help of jealousy, we stimulate relationships to develop, push our loved one to provide us with increased attention and care. But at the same time, excessive jealousy does not allow a couple to exist in peace, since a jealous person constantly doubts the fidelity of his half, suspects her of treason - and this interferes with the normal development of relationships. So you need to be able to walk the fine line between acceptable and excessive jealousy so that your relationship develops normally.

How to create feelings of jealousy on purpose

A girl should always have in stock several ways to make her beloved man jealous of her. This will be useful in case a man begins to pay little attention or believes that he has already finally and irrevocably won his girlfriend. Feelings of jealousy can be evoked in different ways, depending on what stage of the relationship you and the young man are in now and what result you want to achieve in the end.

The guy you like so that he pays attention

Making a guy you like jealous is not a bad idea if you want him to pay attention to you as soon as possible. Firstly, always try to look nice, then the man will automatically think that you probably have a lot of fans. You can also sometimes not answer a guy’s phone calls, and then say that you were busy; this trick needs to be done several times in a row until the guy shows the first signs of concern. A good way is that when you are together, you receive SMS supposedly from a fan. Your man doesn’t need to see the text; it will be enough for him to see that you smile mysteriously while reading it for him to develop a feeling of jealousy.

For a loved one, to strengthen feelings

If you want to make your loved one jealous in order to strengthen your feelings, you can start actively looking after yourself and dressing up. Naturally, your loved one will ask you where and for whom you started dressing up like that. In response, you need to answer your loved one with a playful smile that this is only for him. But subconsciously, the man will not believe your words and will begin to imagine that he has a rival, and then it’s not far from feelings of jealousy. The method suggested above with an SMS from a fan is also suitable - it will invariably make any man worry.

For my husband, so that he loves and appreciates him more

When you are married, a good way to make your husband jealous is to talk, as if by chance, about a real or imagined admirer who has begun to show you signs of attention. In the end, you can safely add that you still love your husband most of all, although you will not hide the fact that the attention clearly flatters you. This will make your husband worry, because if you only told about one admirer, it is possible that there may actually be more of them, or that this admirer will not stop his advances towards you. You can also start actively dressing up, changing your hairstyle and habitual makeup - in a word, start to change. Your husband will immediately think that you are doing this because a young man you like has appeared on the horizon, and the feeling of jealousy will not keep you waiting. You shouldn’t tell your husband the reasons for your changes - you can laugh it off and answer something vague. In a word, he must believe that you really have a fan for whom you want to dress up.

Have an ex-boyfriend to get him back

You can make your ex-boyfriend jealous - this is a good way to try to get him back. Here you can demonstratively appear in front of your ex in the company of some other young man, and with your whole appearance radiate interest in your ex’s rival. Let him see that you are not sad and do not suffer from lack of attention from men. This subconsciously makes any guy jealous, even towards his ex-girlfriend. You can also communicate with his friends, telling him that you are not bored and that you have other fans. His friends will definitely tell him about this, and a sense of ownership and conqueror will awaken in your ex-boyfriend, he will feel unpleasant that someone else is trying to conquer the girl whom he already conquered once.

Jealousy to the point of madness, how to deal with it

A separate and quite serious problem is jealousy to the point of madness and abnormal behavior. A loved one can read your SMS and track your calls, find out where you are and who you are communicating with. Boundless jealousy drains relationships, makes people distrust each other and constantly suspect possible betrayal on the part of a loved one. Abnormal jealousy needs to be eradicated if you do not want to reach the point of breaking up with a young man or total control over where and with whom you are in every free minute.

Jealous behavior ruins relationships

If jealousy has already begun to destroy your relationship with your boyfriend, this is the first alarming sign. The most important thing is to recognize the existence of such a problem, and both sides must admit this. After this, you need to talk frankly with the young man and explain that his or your jealousy is having a detrimental effect on your relationship. You can try to come up with a safe word: by saying it, you will signal each other to calm down and stop being jealous. It will also be useful to increase the level of trust between you: honestly tell each other where you plan to go, how your days are going at work and why you decided to dress up especially beautifully today. When your significant other is aware of all the affairs and problems of your loved one, there is practically no reason for jealousy. You can also try to have someone evaluate your relationship from the outside: ask your friends or relatives how strong your couple seems, what you lack from the outside in order to become even closer and fall in love. Hearing words of affirmation will help you believe in the strength of your relationship.

Husband is jealous of child

The situation is completely different when you already have a small child in your family. Here jealousy plays a completely different role, and its results may also be different. You can safely tell your man that a child is the main proof of your love for him. There is no point in you looking at other men, since your beloved man has already given you the most important and main gift - a baby. This should calm male jealousy, cool it, because the man will hear that he has already firmly conquered you. If you are trying to calm your own jealousy, you should not think that after the birth of a child the man will cheat and look for a quiet life on the side. For a man, a child is an important and responsible step; if he decides to take it, it means he really loves you and is not looking for happiness on the side. If it happens that there has been betrayal in your couple, jealousy will definitely make itself felt. You will fearfully await your man's next betrayal; every girl standing next to you will seem like a potential rival for a place next to your loved one. If there is jealousy after cheating, psychologists advise thinking about a simple point - if you are constantly jealous of a man, he will definitely leave you. If he found the strength to admit to cheating, it means that he definitely broke off all relations with that girl. If you accidentally found out about the betrayal, but the man did not deny it, this is also a good sign for you. You need to find the strength to forgive and give a second chance, because true love is always higher and stronger. Jealousy immediately after betrayal will be very high, so you should prepare for the fact that the relationship will not be easy at first. Over time, you will be able to develop the same level of trust in each other, and then the jealousy will subside. The main thing is not to give it a way out as long as your relationship is in an unstable position and until the strongest resentment from the experience of betrayal by one of you has not been forgotten.

Should you be jealous of your man for fear of losing him?

Whether to be jealous of your man or not is a moot point. It would be much better and more reliable to build your relationship with a man on trust and respect for each other. You should only be jealous occasionally in order to “warm up” the relationship and once again make yourself feel how scary it is to lose a loved one. For example, jealousy is suitable if your relationship has slowed down and subsided in its development - then the appearance of a rival on the horizon will spur the man to develop and quickly win his beloved girl. But a constant feeling of jealousy will not give the girl peace, she will torment herself with doubts - whether her man is dating other girls, whether he is cheating on her and has fallen out of love. A jealous man will always feel similar feelings. Therefore, jealousy should be present only in the smallest amount to be beneficial, and an impressive part of a strong relationship is still based on trust and the ability to value the personal space and free time of a loved one. Maintain the amount of jealousy in your relationship and then it will not cause harm, but will only bring you closer to the young man. If you ask men for advice regarding jealousy, then if you want to induce jealousy, representatives of the stronger sex usually offer the following options. Many men note that they can be made jealous if a woman sometimes refuses intimacy - the thought involuntarily begins to creep in that she has already enjoyed intimacy with someone else and is tired, so by sometimes refusing, you can make your man involuntarily jealous. Another way for jealousy is a change in a woman’s usual mood. For example, if she is always calm, and then suddenly becomes very emotional and active, a man immediately begins to think that she has someone else who inspired her to make such changes and desire to change. As for other men’s advice about how to get rid of jealousy, here men most often offer to talk openly, although this is usually not easy. It’s easier for them when the girl herself explains why she suddenly changed her mood or refuses sex, where she disappears in the evenings, etc. Therefore, if you want to get rid of your man’s jealousy, talk to him about your changes so that he can be calm . It is also important to get rid of jealousy to develop a sense of trust in each other - men usually say in this regard that for them trust develops along with the amount of time spent together. Therefore, try to go somewhere together more often, spend romantic evenings at home - and soon there will be no place left for jealousy in your home, since it will be replaced by love and trust.