August 26, 2015

Life is full of challenges. It's hard to find people who haven't been betrayed. But what to do next if a person close to you has acted meanly? Should I forgive and live peacefully or should I erase such a person from my life? In this article we will answer these questions.
First, let's understand what meanness is.

Meanness - insidious, low and dishonest actions.

Many people confuse meanness with other negative human traits. Often a wife may accuse her husband that if he drinks beer with friends without her, then this is mean. Or the husband accuses his wife of meanness when he comes home and there is nothing to eat. But it’s hard to call all this meanness. Irresponsibility and negligence are possible, but not meanness or betrayal.

Meanness is the insidious, unexpected and extremely negative actions of another person. It can be called meanness when a guy leaves a pregnant girl and accuses her of the fact that the child is not his. This can also be called cheating on a wife or husband. The same word can be used when your boyfriend or girlfriend tells other people how bad you are. And again, meanness is the betrayal of a loved one.

Now, understanding the very word “meanness,” we will decide how to deal with it.

First you need to understand that it is almost impossible to correct a person. Therefore, when you forgive, no one will give you guarantees that this will not happen again. Of course you need to forgive people, why keep negativity inside yourself. Just after meanness, if possible, it is better not to let such a person get close to you.

But there are situations when there is no way to get rid of such a person. What should a woman do when she sees her husband cheating? And she has children from him and a shared apartment. It would be nice to slam the doors and leave. In such situations, I advise you not to give up. There is always a way out. It’s just that it’s often hard to find him when he’s hot.

Weigh everything first. If it’s still not possible to separate, then you need to understand something. This means that your loved one is not close at all and you shouldn’t let him get too close to you. He also needs to be taught a lesson in order to reduce the likelihood of similar actions in the future. You can even move to live with relatives or friends for a certain period. In general, try to stop communicating with the offender. This will help you soberly assess the situation and help the offender think about his actions. Then understand for yourself that you shouldn’t take everything so close to your heart. There is a lot of negativity in the world. What can you do, that’s how it’s designed. Some people need to go through many tests to achieve their goal. For others, everything comes easier. In any case, you shouldn’t worry, even because the offender doesn’t deserve it.

Try to let go of the situation. Look at your problem through the eyes of another person. For example, look at your problem through the eyes of a billionaire. He needs to think every day how to protect his billions and protect himself. And you will see that everything is not so bad.

And then, draw a conclusion for yourself. Namely, that over time you will still have the opportunity to leave and then you will slam the doors and say goodbye to the offender forever. Some wives raise children, and when they grow up, they leave their tyrant husbands. Others find decent men, get divorced and start a new family. Guys who leave their apartment after their wife cheated on them and leave the house to their children do the same.

Yes, meanness can be compared to a stab in the back. It's unexpected and insidious. But this, although bitter, is a lesson that needs to be learned. You need to forgive meanness, but after that, stop all communication with the person who did this. Tell him that you forgive, but you want to see him more. Draw conclusions and start with a clean face. There is a lot of good and bad in the world. You have already experienced bad deeds in your life, which means we are waiting for good ones.