Many girls will now be indignant, quoting the French wisdom: “If a woman is wrong, ask her for forgiveness.”

That is, in any case, in their opinion and the opinion of lovers of frog legs, a man should ask for forgiveness. But, if you consider yourself not against the backdrop of the Eiffel Tower, but in Russian reality, where a woman is both “into a burning hut” and “a galloping horse,” the rules change. It turns out that we are not only equal in rights, but also equally guilty. This means that we bear the same responsibility for the consequences as men.

The Art of Reconciliation

A short preface. It has long been proven that only a strong-willed and self-confident person can afford to ask for forgiveness.

For him, admitting his mistake is not humiliation and not a reason to crawl on his knees. He simply admits his mistake, realizing that those who do nothing are not mistaken.

A person obsessed with inferiority complexes will never be able to admit his guilt. He will be afraid to seem funny and weak.

First, convince yourself that you do not admit defeat, do not kneel, but simply realize that you were wrong and want to tell the person who suffered from it. Your goal is to apologize to the guy beautifully, so as not to lose the relationship, without asking, without crying, but by allowing yourself to be forgiven.

Try to explain to him that no one is immune from mistakes, but not everyone can admit them. And you admit it!

Turn the situation around so that you come out of it, if not a winner, then at least not a loser. To do this, you need to be able to ask for forgiveness beautifully.

Beautiful "sorry"

There are two options for the development of events:

  1. You actually feel guilty for deception, for betrayal, for inattention, for rudeness. A feeling of guilt gnaws at you, you understand, you admit that you were wrong. In this case, you won't have to play anything. Your eyes will finish and confirm everything you say. The main thing is not to allow yourself to be humiliated!
  2. You don't feel wrong. Yes, I deceived, but it had to be so. Yes, I was rude, but I brought it out! Your loved one is offended and won’t accept any arguments, but you don’t want to lose him. Most likely, somewhere deep down in his soul he himself agrees with you, but... Play the blame game. Apologize as a joke. For him, who doubts deep down in his soul, this will be enough to smooth out his male pride. The peace we both need will come, but we’ll see.

What ends with a worthy restoration of relationships in any staging and scenery is beautiful.

Surprise

Sometimes your very apology comes as a surprise to a man. But it is appreciated and happens when you don't ask for forgiveness every day.

Such statements, like declarations of love, cannot be speculated upon, rushed and pronounced without feeling them.

Only then will your surprise make the right impression, only after this unexpected announcement will your man appreciate you. Indeed, any holiday that is repeated every day is first perceived as everyday life, and then begins to irritate.

When your apologies begin to irritate (you can tell by the expression on your face), it means that you have overdone it and it’s time to end the relationship. We wanted the best, and it turned out as always.

Dinner

It is easier to make peace with your husband than when you are just dating and do not live together. In order for him to forgive, the presence of both of you in one point of the universe is a necessity (although with the advent of mobile phones and the Internet this is no longer so relevant).

You probably know the tastes and preferences of your man. Prepare this for him, set the table, and let the whole house smell of it right up to the front door. Be silent for a while and let your “fish” swallow the bait.

And when half of the deliciousness is still left on the plate, come up from behind, hug him, cover his hand with a fork with your hand and whisper: “I realized that I am to blame for (that). Aren’t you angry with me, my love?”

Forgiveness will follow immediately, if only to free your hand and finish dinner.

Box of wishes

You can play up your forgiveness with any surroundings. Each of them will bring positive results. Why? Yes, because all your games are impossible without his presence. And if he participates in this, it means that he himself is waiting and thirsting for reconciliation. If he doesn't want to put up, he won't open any boxes or even eat your dinner.

You can beautifully perform the ritual of reconciliation, in which both are interested, by giving him a box of wishes. Moreover, all desires in her would be reduced to the goal of melting the heart of the offended.

For treason

Explain clearly why this happened. Prove that you could not have acted differently, that you sincerely regret, have drawn conclusions and learned lessons. That you love only him, and there was only... (what took you “to the left”?). State everything convincingly and emotionally. In fact, this is the only offense that a loving person cannot forgive.

For lying

It can be different: for good, for harm, out of harm and out of stupidity. Each of them has a separate resonance.

It’s one thing when you lied that you support Dynamo, another thing when you hid your illegitimate child.

In any case, you cheated for a reason. This was for some reason. The most excuse you have is the fear of losing him. This reason washes away and forgives everything.

For jealousy

If your boyfriend is offended because you are jealous of him, then, alas, he does not love you very much or at all... Jealousy is forgiven a priori. Well, of course, if it is not accompanied by breaking dishes, throwing yourself from the fifth floor and pouring acid on your opponent. If you can't be jealous, then he shouldn't be either. And where is the love?

For insult

For this it is worth asking for forgiveness, receiving it, and then not repeating it. A loving person will forgive this sin of yours more than once. Only for you this will not be the best characteristic.

On distance

Today, in the age of the Internet and Mobile communications, all distances have become relative. Turn on the video call and create the complete illusion of a date. Say everything you wanted to say, but... Sometimes one touch or kiss replaces a thousand phrases by correspondence. Therefore, rehearse your speech in advance. Well, in “phone sex” they can make a man believe that everything is real!

If it's my fault

Sorry, but why apologize if it's not your fault? Unless it’s like this: “Sorry, but you’re wrong!”

On the Internet, in Contact

Ask for forgiveness so that the whole world knows about it. Old, like all media. There are relationships between two people that cannot exist without an audience, without an improvised stage. The more your quarrels and reconciliations are talked about and discussed, the greater your importance. All the world's "stars" are guilty of this. This is called PR. If you need it, explain yourself and apologize on the World Wide Web.

By phone, by SMS

The easiest solution to the problem. You don't have to look into your loved one's eyes. But keep in mind that you cannot see his eyes either. He answers you: “Yes, of course, I forgive you, dear,” and he frowns and breaks his ballpoint pen. However, the result is there, but you won’t know about the pen.

Original ways to justify yourself

In words in verse

If your boyfriend doesn’t understand rhymed works, has never read “Eugene Onegin” and believes that Parsnip is just a plant, he may perceive your poems in two ways. If he is indifferent to you, he will simply laugh and brag to his friends.

A loving guy will be touched and appreciate your work simply because it is yours, and will become proud of you.

In prose, in writing

The epistolary genre has undergone some changes. Today, letters are called messages on the Internet. But no one canceled letters on paper. There is a family in which, after disagreements, only they become a way of communication, as between Sharik and Matroskin. Forgiveness and reconciliation also happen on paper first. It’s also great because it leaves a memory for the rest of your life.

Example:

I came to you, suffering and loving
I came to you, hiding my pride:
I'm sorry, not because it's my fault,
But because it’s bad without you.

By deed

Well, what action can a girl show her feelings?! She really shouldn't throw herself in front of a tram! And we won’t save the guy from hooligans either. Do we need a guy like this?!

The most effective and most feminine act is a kiss. Come up, silently hug and kiss. And let him guess for himself what you wanted to say.

If you live together, there is more choice of actions. You can wash his car, buy beer for dinner, or finally show him a striptease.

Is it worth it?

We are all so different that no general rules will tell you a panacea for all occasions. In each specific situation, only you can decide what to do right.

Three times you offended a guy and got away with it. The conflict was simply hushed up. I'll have to apologize a fourth time, at least for a change.

You have committed something vile. You understand this yourself. If he turns a blind eye to this because he loves you very much and is afraid of losing you, you risk turning him into a “rag.”

In order to respect your man yourself, and not to humiliate his dignity, you can apologize to the guy.

Despite what the French say, let's treat each other with respect, no matter what gender characteristics nature has given us. But sometimes, in special cases, without abusing it, you can take advantage of the fact that you were so lucky and were born a woman.

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